A narcissistic relationship is one in which one person in the relationship is incapable of loving the other partner because they are totally absorbed with themselves. It is one in which your partner makes you feel that there is nothing you can do that is good enough for him or her.

It is a relationship where your self-esteem is torn apart day by day and you don’t even realize it because you are too busy trying to do whatever will make your partner love you. But it is a waste of time. A narcissist in incapable of loving anyone and as odd as it seems they really don’t even love themselves.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in the relationship for a short time or a long time the narcissist is a con artist that has manipulated you into thinking you are not deserving of their love.  And you must understand that it has been done deliberately.

Your partner may appear to be a high achiever and supremely confident.  They are probably very charming and attractive and you don’t want to lose them.   But what is really happening is that your lover has brainwashed you into thinking she/he is perfect and let’s you know in subtle, and not so subtle, ways that you are lucky to have them.

If you look at yourself truthfully you probably will find that you are the one that is doing everything to shore up their feelings when things are not going well.

Nevertheless, your partner doesn’t seem to care about your needs, your life or your feelings.

You may also have a partner that is the life of the party but acts different when alone with you.   Your partner is argumentative and accusatory for no reason when alone with you.  Your partner blames you for their problems in life. Your partner may say that he/she doesn’t think you admire him/her enough, doesn’t think you “motivate” him/her in life.

When you are in one of these relationships the tell-tale sign is that you are feeling empty, unworthy and unable to get emotional satisfaction from your partner no matter what you do.

Your partner blames you directly or indirectly for their dissatisfaction with their own life.

If you think you can never win in this narcissistic relationship – you are right!

You need to get out of the narcissistic relationship if you are ever to love again.   The narcissist destroys you way deep down in your soul and you need help.

Click here for a source of help with the Spiritual Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse.

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